Death is a sensitive subject in our world today. You have to be most careful and tread lightly when discussing death, the afterlife and loss in general.
While these boundaries are important, it’s also important to talk about it and share ideas on loss and grief.
Losing anyone close to you can be one of the most painful and gut-wrenching experiences of your life. However through this pain, people are sometimes able to take away a powerful lesson or a significant message about their own lives.
I’m not saying that we need to have our loved ones pass for us to learn life lessons. However, I have noticed in my work as a professional medium that many of my clients have had powerful epiphanies after someone close to them passed away.
It’s often described like a wake-up call and people suddenly realize what truly is important. All of the other worries, concerns and “small stuff” are not as important anymore. Values and beliefs sometimes change as well as perspectives.
While we will never get our loved ones back, I like to believe that they are always with us in spirit. Some would disagree with this idea and that’s okay.
As a medium, my clients have taught me a few lessons about death and losing a loved one that I would like to share with you:
1. It’s okay to grieve, cry, scream and blame the world.
Sure the idea is to grieve and there is supposed to be some time frame that our grieving will be done. But let’s face it, we are all different and it may take years before we ever really start to feel like ourselves again. Allow yourself to experience whatever emotions you need to help you in this process.
2. If you have lost a loved one and sometimes feel their presence still around, it doesn’t mean you are crazy.
I have had clients who sometimes feel their passed loved one around them years after he or she had passed. If you feel your passed loved one around you sometimes, they just might be. Who is to say they aren’t?
It could be you thinking about them or grieving over their loss that you wish they were still around. However, from my experience as a medium they may make a visit to see you in Spirit.
3. It’s okay to seek out professional help in the midst of grieving.
Sometimes, therapy/guidance/counseling can be looked at as something weird or if you go to one, you have serious issues. However this belief is changing as more and more people are finding it to be helpful in having someone to talk to.
If you feel the urge to seek out someone to talk to, do it. Don’t feel weak or bad because you can’t hold all your emotions in. It’s healthy to release this energy and will help you in the healing process.
4. Trust that your loved one is okay.
Many of my clients’ first question is, “Are they okay?”. In many of contacts with the Spirits who have passed on, most have communicated that they are ok.
Again, this goes with your belief system. Not everyone believes in the afterlife or in mediums.
5. Healing takes time.
Don’t think that because it’s been a year since your loved one passed that you should be completely done grieving. This will take time and don’t be hard on yourself if you are still grieving.
Be patient with yourself and seek out as much support from those around you to help you in this process. Remember your loved one will always be a part of you.
As wise Leo Tolstoy once said, “Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.”