“Speak when you are angry and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.”- Laurence J. Peter
Do you remember the last time you said something really hurtful to someone out of anger? How did you feel after?
Some of us may have instantly felt relieved because we were able to express ourselves. However, usually there is a bit of regret that follows after we say something out of anger.
Personally, I never really feel good about myself if I impulsively reacted out of anger. I always feel really bad and just beat myself up for being a complete idiot and wishing that I had thought before I spoke.
Have you ever felt this way or had a moment like this?
We will all have our moments when anger will creep up and get the best of us. The idea is to figure out how to not let it get the best of you and avoid impulsively speaking out of anger.
I have learned to focus on my breathing when I am starting to get upset about something. Rather than immediately reacting to the situation or person, I simply try to ground myself by focusing on my breath and where I’m feeling most tense. This technique has taken some practice and doesn’t always work but has helped me quite a few times when I wanted to say something out of anger.
What works for you when you are angry? How do you deal? Some people take a walk or others retreat into personal projects or work. There are many ways to deal with it. You just have to discover what works for you.
There may be times when it may be difficult to hold back your tongue and not really say what you are thinking. This will be a challenge but perhaps in the end you will be much happier with yourself that you didn’t react out of anger.
Anger is simply a temporary madness. Learn how to tame it and you will save yourself the heartache and regret that could follow.