How the Quiet Can Change Humankind.

“My love, where do you go when you go quiet?”

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The quiet has always been a magical and mysterious place for me. I like to consider myself an extrovert introvert. I can enjoy a good conversation and social gathering but then I also like my quiet time.

This is where I get to be the turtle and retreat into my shell when necessary for growth and reflection. For anyone who has a first nature to be introverted you may naturally gravitate towards more solo and individual experiences.

And for the outgoing extrovert it is time needed to recharge and replug.

The quiet is a place for all of us. Always available.

It can be inside or in an environment.

It is where we can listen. Gain insight. Hear our intuition.

My quiet practice involves mentally going into the temple or “cave” of my mind. Tuning out from the world and going within.

It gives me the opportunity to sit in stillness, be creative and build something from nothing. In space of nothing is everything hence why minimalism is so popular.

We don’t need so much to create or to hear. We just need intention, discipline and willingness.

Are you willing?

Surrender to the quiet and let it guide you on your own journey.

Your body will thank you for it.

And you will thank you for it.

We can be better humans to ourselves and to each other.

In stillness there is a kindness and compassion that I am reminded of. I am reminded that I deserve to be kind to myself and to know compassion. That I am human and that in itself is enough.

Being human is a miracle.

Without the moments of being in the quiet I may not have those reminders.

In the quiet

I grow

I listen

I create

My heart softens

I am within

I am without

I am everything

And

I am human.

Where do you go when you go quiet?

Dreams & Old Hurts.

What we want versus what we must do are two very completely different things. In my quest to heal the traumas of the past I have learned that the only way out is through.

I may not want to go through the process to reflect and clear trauma but I know that I must to make space for it.

To give it a voice and to let all the hurt from those memories be free.

18076689_10155351021101424_2776611793883934728_oYesterday I went very deep in two meditations enough to forget my body for a split second. I jolted back into the reality of my teacher’s voice and noticed where my mind had gone.

I went into an archive tucked away in time to a distant and near memories. One of which I got my heart broken and the other a trauma around the belief of not being lovable.

Sad but true.

Meditation is such a phenomenal tool in gaining insight on what is underneath all of the layers of my “self”.

In it I gain perspective and some peace that wasn’t there before.

This morning I woke up from several intense dreams where I released some buried hurt around two very traumatic relationships. One of my father where he transformed into a hummingbird and passed away.

I realized that in my hurt I could still see his worthiness. While he may not transform in this life he has the opportunity to transform in other dimensions.

We are never truly fixed as we are.

Dreams are opportunities for us to grow, expand and learn outside of ourselves. With intention and awareness I believe we can heal a lot in the dream state.

We are worthy of giving ourselves this.

Kintsugi is the art of embracing the flawed and imperfect by mending together broken and shattered pottery with gold lacquer highlighting the cracks rather than hiding them.

I like to consider that my healing journey is like the art of Kintsugi. Perhaps my heart is a mirror of the image above.

Pure with gold outlines.

Whatever our old hurts may be we can take them and give them light. Show them there is still beauty in the flaws.

The story is perfect and whole as we are.

-From Emily, With Love.

 

 

Healing From Trauma [Guest Post]

Rachel Poli

Today’s guest post is brought to you by Emily Stroia! Thanks, Emily!

Emily Stroia Guest Post

Healing from trauma isn’t a straight line. For me it has and still is an ongoing journey.

We all have our scars, stories and experiences that have shaped our view of the world and of ourselves.

I have explored healing through the mystical, spiritual, self-help, therapy and emotional intelligence. You name it and I have most likely done it.

I have been in therapy since I was 5 years old when I shared with my teacher a fight my parents had. This conversation sparked my healing journey and every week I would meet with the school therapist. These sessions were my saving grace as a child.

Home life was very confusing, dark and traumatic.

My mother was diagnosed with schizophrenia and my father was abusive; mentally, physically and sexually.

One day around the age of 13,  I went…

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How My Intuition Became My Home

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“At times you have to leave the city of your comfort and go into the wilderness of your intuition. What you’ll discover will be wonderful. What you’ll discover is yourself.” — Alan Alda

Our intuition manifests in different ways. Often times we experience intuitive phenomena with our families, loved ones, dreams and the paranormal. Sometimes our intuition may peak during transitions or after loss and trauma.

For me, my experience of discovering my spiritual gifts was a little different than some of the common stories you hear of people seeing spirits growing up or things of sort.

I grew up in an extremely challenging and abusive home where my parents weren’t the safest nor healthiest role models to guide or show me the way.

My natural response to the constant emotional distress was to turn inward to my inner voice and imagination. I discovered my gifts of creativity, writing, and intuition. I found safety, refuge and a home in these gifts and spent many nights journaling and praying to the Universe.

I often consulted with my intuition and looked for signs in my daily environment as answers. If I couldn’t change my outside circumstances I could most definitely change the little world that I lived in within.

I didn’t know at the time that I had spiritual gifts. I only knew I was unique and had a story I wanted to share to help someone else find their way through a dark time. You see, I always had this resilient spirit and I never let my circumstances bring me down for too long.

I just knew that I was given a story that I could possibly help save someone else’s life with. I knew that my childhood and teen years of trauma and pain didn’t happen for nothing.

I wasn’t going to leave behind a war zone with just scars. I knew that the universe had a special plan for me so I surrendered and let my soul guide me.

After I moved away from home, I vowed I would leave it all behind, start fresh and forget about all of it. However, no matter how far we try to run from the past it always does seem to find us.

I realized I couldn’t run, forget or bury it so I allowed it to transform my life. My intuitive and spiritual gifts began to blossom and I found a passion in healing myself not just through therapy but with spirituality.

I started to meditate and attended workshops on every type of spiritual art out there including psychic development, mediumship, crystal healing and hypnotherapy. With every class I took I discovered a real passion in spirituality. My soul began to heal and release parts of my past that still haunted me.

My nightmares and night terrors went away. I got over a lot of anxiety with public speaking and speaking in general. I stopped being afraid of people and started looking them in the eye again. I gave the world a chance and opened up to building more intimate connections despite my fears.

In this journey I discovered, healed and released so much. I realized I really did have a gift of helping people and not just any gift but an array of spiritual and intuitive gifts.

Now I teach spiritual mentorship and work with people privately. I help them see their light when they have lost their way.

I let my intuition guide me to a home that is sacred and only mine, my spiritual home.

We are so much more than stories and what has happened to us.

We are miracles. Allow yours to take place.

*this article was also published on Huffington Post, Read Here.*

Discovering Your Soul’s Purpose with Three Simple Practices

https://i2.wp.com/stepconsulting.ca/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/purpose_examples3-600x325.jpgWe are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.  -Mary Dunbar

Do you ever wonder what your purpose in life is? Or question when you will ever find it? The journey to discovering what your soul’s purpose is can sometimes feel long and never-ending. People have asked me, “How will I know that this is my purpose?”

Well, to be quite frank, sometimes you know right away what your purpose is and other times, you don’t. You may have some idea of what you want to do or what you want to be when you “grow up” but that’s it. Other times, you will feel like you are walking in the dark with no light and no one to tell you which way to go.

So many times, I have felt this way. As a child I knew I was drawn to helping people.  I had a heart of compassion, empathized and listened well. I knew I wanted to empower people to be happy and find themselves. However, over time even that desire was grey. Did I want to be a psychologist, life coach or counselor? The corporate world never resonated with me. I am more of a free spirit, discovering my path as I go. So after I graduated from college and the question came to, “What do I want to do with my life?”

I had no idea except to start a business of my own as an intuitive coach. Going out on a whim, I decided to take the leap and trust that this is what my soul wanted. I had no idea that it would lead me to where I am today, a thriving business owner, entrepreneur and consultant for helping people lead more fulfilled and empowered lives.

Taking the leap towards a passion or interest is like walking on a tightrope and hoping you don’t fall. You can’t look back and definitely are too afraid to look down. You just have to keep going forward and have faith that your intuition led you here for a reason.

So how can you begin the journey to discover your soul’s purpose? Here are three easy tips to finding your soul’s purpose.

1. Do more of what excites YOU!  Practice doing more things that make you excited, happy or joyful. What do you enjoy doing weekly or daily? Is it reading inspirational blog posts in the morning before work? Exercise or cooking?

This doesn’t mean it is your soul purpose to exercise or cook all the time but do know that these interests are what your soul needs more of. Think of your soul as a plant. It needs spiritual, mental, emotional and physical nourishment to grow and expand. The more you do, play and experiment the more you will discover.

2. Who are your icons? Who do you pay attention to most? These can be your favorite brands/public figures/characters in books or television show.

Why are you drawn to them? What excites you about them? Who do you aspire to be like?  List 5 qualities about 2-3 top icons/brands that you love and why. Now practice integrating those qualities more into your life.

3. Patience & Non-comparison- Realize this is where you are now and accept it. Most times we get caught up in resisting the here & now because we are in rat race to get to the final destination. Practice enjoying the moment more.

Remember, discovering your soul’s purpose isn’t always something you wake up with in your head or just dawns you. Sometimes it takes time and experimentation to really discover it. The more you practice doing simple and small tasks everyday of what you love and excites you, you start to grow into that of which you already are.

(this article was also published on HuffPost)

Embracing Who You Really Are

https://i0.wp.com/goldenwordsofself.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/embrace-yourself.jpg “Embrace who you are and don’t make any apologies for being yourself.”

Have you ever felt ashamed of who you are? Do you shy away from showing your real self? Are you afraid of what others will think of you, flaws and all? The ultimate battle between who we are and who we think we should be can be a loud voice inside our heads, stopping us from “coming out” with our truth.

However, letting outside beliefs, conditions or people dictate how we live isn’t okay. Neither is living in an emotional prison that may have been built by yourself and others. We create the lives we live. There isn’t anyone else who really has control over our personality, lifestyle or beliefs unless we give them that power.

For years, I felt ashamed of the person I am. I felt like I needed to hide my past from people, to hide the dark truths of my life and also just hide myself. I felt the desire to please people first instead of making myself happy because that is what I believed real friendship and love depended on. If I was everything they wanted me to be then I would have a friend, partner or mentor to be there for me like I was for them.

However, I was rudely awakened. Making everyone else happy and putting my needs last was the worst thing I could have done for myself. Not only did I lose those people in the end but I also lost me. I was so afraid to talk, speak up or share what I was thinking and feeling. I didn’t want to be judged or seen as weak or naive.  I always felt the need to apologize for myself.

What I was actually doing was abusing myself and letting others abuse and take advantage of me. This is not love nor friendship.

You are the one who has the keys to your happiness. You can choose to express yourself in whichever way you want. Don’t live your life dependent on anyone’s beliefs, opinions or thoughts of you. I know it is much easier said than done but once you start embracing who you are, you begin to embrace your real happiness.

You are giving yourself the gift of true respect, authenticity and love. People who love you for you will be there and those that don’t, well that relationship wasn’t right for you anyway.

Way to start embracing who you really are right now:

  1. Live from your heart- Begin to check in with yourself and see how you are feeling throughout the day. Live from your heart and make decisions that won’t compromise your happiness later.
  2. Learn to say “no”- It is okay to say no. You can turn down an invite, or not always be the therapist for your friend to talk to. Put your needs first and if you aren’t fully comfortable there is nothing wrong with just plain saying,  “No” or “Not right now”. People are willing to wait and be patient.
  3. Set boundaries- Yes, we must all set boundaries but for us people-pleasers this can be the most difficult. If someone isn’t respecting your boundaries voice it in the most kind yet assertive way possible. You want to make your point and be clear.

Turn a new leaf today and start living, breathing and being

you.