Kindness.

Kindness is often a rarity these days and usually quite a surprise for most of us. Recently I worked on a Pay-It-Forward project with a group of people where we went out into the city (NYC) and gave out free hand sanitizer and tissues. I was  shocked at how many people were receptive and also how many weren’t. Some people gave me strange looks and others were surprised to see that this was just a random act of kindness without asking for anything in return.

But that’s how it is isn’t it? We are constantly living in this bubble where we guard ourselves from reaching out to others or making a simple human connection like saying hello.  People are so judgmental and quick to assume when in reality sometimes we really just need to give people a chance. Often we think that everyone  wants something from us, but what if that isn’t the case?  Give kindness a chance and do something good for someone else with no strings attached.  No matter what the outcome is, at least you know did something right in the world and that’s all that matters. Everyone has their own stories and battles. See what the person can teach you about yourself and put your judgments aside even for just a moment.

Here are some ideas of random acts of kindness to get you started:

1. Offer to help one of your friend’s with an issue he/she has been struggling with. I.e. organizing their closets or go to the gym together.

2. Smile at someone. 🙂  Smiles can really help brighten someone’s day.

3. Listen. You’d be surprised at how many people feel like they don’t have anyone to listen to them.

4. Bake cookies and give some to your neighbor. (my neighbor did that and it was such a great and yummy surprise!)

5. Volunteer at a local organization or go out with a group of friends and give out sandwiches to homeless people in your city.

Don’t be afraid to make a difference in the world. We all need a little kindness in our lives.

 

The Power of Overcoming Fear.

“Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom.” – Marilyn Ferguson

We are all afraid of something in life. It could be the fear of rejection, public speaking, commitment or being alone.  Fear is usually defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. It is the one thing that can stop us from following our intuition. Fear also limits our personal growth and creates stress.

What is one fear that is limiting you today? Or what is one fear that you have been able to conquer and overcome? How did you feel when you overcame it?

For me it was public speaking.  I was terrified of public speaking to the point where my palms would sweat, heart raced, and my body would shake.  In my profession as an Intuitive Consultant and a medium, public speaking is really important and essential if I wanted to reach out and help people.  I had two choices, either allow this fear to paralyze me or do something about it. After some time, I chose to do something about it and signed up for a public speaking class. It was the first step to liberation for me! After some practice and training,  I feel more confident and I no longer have a fear of public speaking.  I feel free now and open to public speaking opportunities. It wasn’t an easy process but in the end it was totally worth it!

We don’t need our fears but keep them to feel secure and safe. Take that step today to releasing that fear. I read somewhere that life begins at the end of your comfort zone so get out of yours and conquer that fear!

Declutter Your Life.

“To change skins, evolve into new cycles, I feel one has to learn to discard. If one changes internally, one should not continue to live with the same objects. They reflect one’s mind and the psyche of yesterday. I throw away what has no dynamic, living use.”
~Anais Nin

When it comes to Decluttering our lives we usually think of our home first. However decluttering doesn’t have just to be in the home. We can start in any area of our lives.  When you declutter you allow room for growth in your life and bring in clarity. Simplifying your life allows you the freedom to create and become more in touch with yourself. Since Spring is here, we also hear and see many topics on spring cleaning, getting rid of the old and bringing in the new.  What area of your life would you like to spring clean or declutter? Here are a few ideas to get you started.

Declutter Your Emotions

Maybe you have been struggling with some anger from the past or frustration in general. Whatever it is, it could really be weighing down on you. Allow yourself to experience those emotions and release them. Forgive yourself, forgive old hurts/people from the past. Seek out friends who can support and help you with this. Meditation has also been a powerful tool to help with clearing out old hurts and built-up anger.

Simplify & Declutter Your Home

We can accumulate a lot of junk over the years! Have you peeked into those closets, boxes and wardrobes lately? Perhaps you are too overwhelmed from just the thought of starting the process of organizing and clearing out things you don’t need. You can try by starting in one area, i.e. your wardrobe/dresser and moving to the next.  It’s always good to circulate energy and if you haven’t used it in the past 6 months to a year, it’s time to toss it or donate it! Your misfortune could be someone else’s fortune! Plus its great karma points for you when you donate right?

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life

Our thoughts are such powerful tools in the way we react and see things in life. Negative thinking can have a really strong impact on us and our motivation to succeed in anything. Get rid of of the negative thoughts and start thinking more positively! It doesn’t cost you anything to think positive so why waste time thinking negatively? There are some great books out there on positive thinking and affirmations which can help get you started, i.e. The Power and You Can Heal Your Life.  Dr. Wayne Dyer once said, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”.

Love Yourself
When we declutter we usually think about our external environment. Our environment is extremely important and has a huge impact on our daily responsibilities. However it is important to remember to love yourself during the process of clearing out and decluttering. Maybe you are overworked and desperately need a night/day to hang out with friends, go to the spa or just some “me-time”. Take the time to take care of yourself and don’t feel guilty about it. You deserve to love to yourself. Who else will?
Don’t be afraid to let go and clear out some of that old junk hiding away in your closets or in the closets of your mind. Learn to discard and allow yourself  to bring in new energy.

Self-Transformation.

  “Transformation literally means going beyond your form.” – Wayne Dyer

Spring has arrived, flowers are blooming and the world is becoming more alive.  New energy is moving and we are shedding our winter skin. Spring is a time for transformation, rebirth, starting anew.  You may see this happen with people exercising more, eating healthier and trying to lead a more balanced life. Transformation doesn’t just occur with us humans though. We see this in Nature with all the beautiful colorful butterflies coming out of their cocoons. They were once tiny caterpillars that could only walk on this Earth and in just a few months transformed into one of Nature’s lovely creatures.  Just like the caterpillar you may be working towards a transformation in your own life.  It doesn’t necessarily have to be exercising more or eating right.  It may be working on destressing, making more time for loved ones or tapping into your creative side.

Often in life we get so caught up that we put our self-work to the side and say we will get to it another day and then that day never comes! Now is the time to start working on yourself. Don’t waste another second! The transformation you want may not happen overnight or extremely soon but don’t give up. It will take time, effort and serious dedication but you owe it to yourself to make it happen. Become that butterfly!

 

Simple Life Truths.

Where to do you go to be inspired or to rejuvenate? Perhaps you have some favorite quotes, blogs, images, or just a place where you go to center yourself. Sometimes we go through life on auto-pilot, focusing all of our attention on everything and everyone that we forget to focus on ourselves even for just a minute. While all our responsibilities will always be around, its important to stop and listen to ourselves and what our inner self is telling us. Here are some images I found to be inspiring and helpful for when life becomes too stressful and I need to simply need to center myself.

Photo Credit: http://www.marcandangel.com
Photo Credit:www.marcandangel.com
Photo Credit:www.marcandangel.com

How about you? Feel free to share your favorite inspirational quotes, images, thoughts or what you do to center yourself.

Patience.

“Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow – that is patience.” – Anonymous

Do you ever feel so frustrated to the point where you just want to give up and say to hell with all of it?  What do you do when that happens? Sometimes I just lose my patience, patience to wait for anything to happen. It’s like I just want to scream and say, “When is it going to be my turn?!”.  Meanwhile you see everyone else accomplishing their dreams and making moves and with your life it feels like there is no movement. You try and try and yet still see no result. I read somewhere that even in those moments of our trying, things are happening, energy is moving in our favor for when the time is right, for when we are ideally ready.  Its also in our moments of frustration where we suddenly may have a catharsis or feel that slight bit of hope still. There is light at the end of the tunnel.  We aren’t going to manifest everything we want right away. It’s all about timing right? So when you feel discouraged and just want to walk away, give up or throw away your dreams, just remember how far you have come and to have patience. Look for the signs that you are on the right path and making the right decisions. Trust that you will get there and have the patience to do so even when the going gets tough.

Letting go.

  What have you been holding on to lately? Or better yet, what are you afraid to let go? For me, it was a personal relationship. Three years of my life invested with someone and all I could think of was I wasn’t ready to let this go. I was holding on to this relationship so tightly out of fear, fear of being alone and fear of the unknown. I wasn’t ready to see what would happen if it ended. What would I do afterwards? Would I ever find anyone else who could love me just as much?  I knew that it was time for a change, I  just wasn’t ready to face it.  It was time for me to let the relationship go and  trust that everything would be okay.  I’m still coming to terms with the loss of a love. I can’t say that I feel 100% completely better or healed but I’m taking it day by day, one step at a time.

For you, it may not be a personal relationship. It could be letting go of control, fear, an insecurity or a bad habit. Ask yourself, what is stopping you from letting it go? Now take your reasons and put them to the side and ask yourself again, What is stopping you from letting it go? Timing is everything and it may not be the right time but when it is you will know. Just trust that you are making the right decision and go with your gut instinct. After all, our intuition can be our strongest guide to leading us to the next best thing.