The Power of Taking a Risk.

  “Leap and the net will appear.”

It’s easy to stay in our comfort zones. The familiar too often traps us from personal growth, breaking patterns and taking risks. The unknown can seem terrifying and impossible to achieve.

But what if taking that leap actually led us closer to our true life purpose? Or helped us in having a major breakthrough or epiphany?

Recently, I decided to take a huge risk by jumping out of a plane at 10,000 feet on my 26th birthday. I know it sounds pretty crazy but for some reason I felt really compelled to do it. I’m normally not a thrill-seeker but skydiving seemed like the right way to start off my birthday.

The thought of skydiving didn’t seem to scare me but when the day actually came I was terrified. I remember being in the plane and thinking this could truly be my last day on earth. And then before I knew it, I was looking down at the ground and just jumping.

Eyes wide open and gravity pulling me down at 120 mph I realized just how truly amazing this experience was. I trusted that I was going to land safely and just allowed myself to let go. All of my fears and worries were no longer with me. There was not a care in the world, just me and the sky.

Why do I share this story with you? Well, it’s definitely not to encourage you to skydive, to each his own. I wanted to share this story with you because even though skydiving is a dangerous thing to do, it taught me something about fear and courage.

It taught me to trust that everything is going to be okay regardless of the risks involved. I learned that this experience gave me the confidence to take more risks and make quick decisions regardless if they are going to be right or wrong. Before I always felt scared to make a decision because I wanted to make sure it was the perfect one.

Sometimes we are going to be at a crossroads in our lives where we are going to faced with a major decision which may involve some risk-taking. People are always saying live with no regrets. This opportunity to live your life a little differently from before may be the best risk you ever took. Take the leap and see where it takes you.

The Importance of You.

Aibileen Clark’s philosophy from the film The Help has not only helped people realize their worth but has emphasized the importance of believing in yourself.

There may be people in our lives who aren’t as supportive of our ideas, dreams and goals. It is easy to fall into this trap of believing you aren’t good enough or lack purpose in this world.

For my entire childhood, my father would constantly tell me that I wasn’t good enough and wouldn’t make anything of myself. He wasn’t the kind of father who didn’t believe in praise or good rewards for your children.

I didn’t have a nanny like Aibileen Clark to encourage me and help me remember who I really am regardless of anyone’s negative talk. Luckily though, I found strength in myself and with the help of my teachers in school I learned what it felt like to have someone else believe in you.

I learned that I was good enough and that I could make something of myself in this world.

If you are experiencing this from someone in your life or have experienced someone talking down to you, just remember Aibileen Clark’s philosophy. It may be easier said than done but it’s better than believing you aren’t worth anything. Remember what you are worth and listen to your inner voice.

In the wise words of Aibileen Clark: You is kind, You is Smart, You is Important. Don’t forget it.

 

When You Lose a Loved One.

Death is a sensitive subject in our world today. You have to be most careful and tread lightly when discussing death, the afterlife and loss in general.

While these boundaries are important, it’s also important to talk about it and share ideas on loss and grief.

Losing anyone close to you can be one of the most painful and gut-wrenching experiences of your life. However through this pain, people are sometimes able to take away a powerful lesson or a significant message about their own lives.
I’m not saying that we need to have our loved ones pass for us to learn life lessons.   However, I have noticed in my work as a professional medium that many of my clients have had powerful epiphanies after someone close to them passed away.

It’s often described like a wake-up call and people suddenly realize what truly is important. All of the other worries, concerns and “small stuff” are not as important anymore. Values and beliefs sometimes change as well as perspectives.

While we will never get our loved ones back, I like to believe that they are always with us in spirit. Some would disagree with this idea and that’s okay.

As a medium, my clients have taught me a few lessons about death and losing a loved one that I would like to share with you:

1. It’s okay to grieve, cry, scream and blame the world.

Sure the idea is to grieve and there is supposed to be some time frame that our grieving will be done. But let’s face it, we are all different and it may take years before we ever really start to feel like ourselves again. Allow yourself to experience whatever emotions you need to help you in this process.

2. If you have lost a loved one and sometimes feel their presence still around, it doesn’t mean you are crazy.

I have had clients who sometimes feel their passed loved one around them years after he or she had passed. If you feel your passed loved one around you sometimes, they just might be. Who is to say they aren’t?

It could be you thinking about them or grieving over their loss that you wish they were still around. However, from my experience as a medium they may make a visit to see you in Spirit.

3. It’s okay to seek out professional help in the midst of grieving.

Sometimes, therapy/guidance/counseling can be looked at as something weird or if you go to one, you have serious issues. However this belief is changing as more and more people are finding it to be helpful in having someone to talk to.

If you feel the urge to seek out someone to talk to, do it. Don’t feel weak or bad because you can’t hold all your emotions in. It’s healthy to release this energy and will help you in the healing process.

4. Trust that your loved one is okay.

Many of my clients’ first question is, “Are they okay?”.  In many of contacts with the Spirits who have passed on, most have communicated that they are ok.

Again, this goes with your belief system. Not everyone believes in the afterlife or in mediums.

5. Healing takes time.

Don’t think that because it’s been a year since your loved one passed that you should be completely done grieving. This will take time and don’t be hard on yourself if you are still grieving.

Be patient with yourself and seek out as much support from those around you to help you in this process. Remember your loved one will always be a part of you.

As wise Leo Tolstoy once said, “Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.”

The Little Things in Life.

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When was the last time you enjoyed the little things?  It’s much easier said than done.

Every day we rush, trying to check off everything on our to-do list and forget to notice the little gifts from life. It could be someone’s laughter,  the breeze on a hot day or receiving a compliment from a stranger. 

For me,  I was recently rushing to an appointment and as I was running I realized just how beautiful the weather was.  I realized that even though this was a little thing it had a huge impact on my well-being.

Sometimes we measure success of a day by how many great things we can accomplish. However the small things are just as important and often taken for granted.

Take time today, even a few seconds to acknowledge what you can enjoy, big or small. 

How Do You Make People Feel?

Think back on a time when someone made you feel incredibly special. Who was this person? What about them made you feel special?

We interact with people everyday from our loved ones to random strangers. Each person makes you feel differently.  Some people may make you feel frustrated and angry and others will make you feel happy and joyful.

The impressions we make are important as well as how we make others feel. How do you make people feel? What impressions do you leave behind? More importantly, how do you want to make people feel?

Some people don’t really care and go about their daily lives being rude, selfish and inconsiderate. While other people may be more considerate, thoughtful and kind.

I’m not saying we all need to be like the Dalai Lama but there is something to how we treat people. There is an energy and a karma.  We meet people for whatever reasons. It’s up to us to decide what those everlasting feelings will be.

What impression do you want to have on those around you? What do you want people to remember about the way you made them feel?

Own Your Past.

“Don’t let your past dictate who you are, but let it be a part of who you will become.”

Was there ever a time in your life when you wanted to block out,  erase or completely forget something from your past? Perhaps it was a difficult relationship, losing a loved one or a traumatic experience.  As much as we hope that life is easy and our experiences enjoyable, it doesn’t always end up that way.

It’s common for us to want to disconnect from the not-so-happy memories and painful past experiences. We can be hedonistic in that we flee from emotional pain and pursue our pleasures.

As much as we would like to separate ourselves from past hurts, it’s nearly impossible. Have you ever heard that quote, “Wherever you go, there you are”?  No matter how much we can try to bury the past it’s going to be a part of us.

So what can we do with those painful memories? We can learn from them.  Our past not only is a part of us but it also can teach us some very powerful lessons and lead us into life-changing directions.

There was a time in my life when all I wanted was to erase the painful memories of my childhood. However over time, I evolved and learned some incredible life lessons from those memories. I realized that without it I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I learned to embrace those painful memories and share my life lessons with those around me.

Own your past and don’t be ashamed of it. Instead be thankful and accept it because it has helped to form the beautiful person you have become today.

The Road Less Traveled.

“You’ve got to follow your passion. You’ve got to figure out what it is you love–who you really are. And have the courage to do that. I believe that the only courage anybody ever needs is the courage to follow your own dreams.” ~Oprah


Have you ever had a dream only to be told that it would never happen? It’s not always easy to follow your dreams especially when there is pressure to follow a more conventional path. Not all of us want to give in to the demands of society by getting a big corporate job or working for someone else.

So when do we draw the line? When do we grow the courage to take a risk and follow our dreams? Usually it’s fear that stops us from pushing forward. Other times, it could be our external environments, families, friends that discourage us from going down the road less traveled.

What is stopping you? Are you following your dreams? If not, what can you do to start making your dreams happen?

I’m not saying that we all need to quit our daily jobs and responsibilities but perhaps it’s time to take some steps to making our dreams come true.

We may fall flat on our face or we may come out more successful than we were in the beginning. Either way, we will never know until we have the courage to make that first step. It’s up to you to decide. Have the courage, take a risk and don’t look back. In the end, you may find the road less traveled more rewarding.