When Searching For Happiness.

“Happiness often comes when least expected.” – Hector and the Search for Happiness

In our search for happiness, we often overlook the simple things that come as  tiny blessings unexpectedly.

For example, recently I was invited to go see a movie. When I arrived at the theater, immediately something felt weird.  The person who took my ticket stub was acting strange, the movie didn’t start on time and to top it off, it was the WRONG movie. For some odd reason, the movies had been switched.

Looking at this situation, I could easily just have focused on all the negatives and been extremely disappointed. However, there was a positive tiny blessing that came out of it.  I didn’t get to see the movie I wanted but in exchange not only was I refunded, I received two passes to any movie to use any time.

Sometimes things may not work out the way we expect them to but in my situation with the movie theater, happiness came when least expected.

It’s in the unexpected where real surprise and happiness can be found.

One of the 5 rules for happiness is to expect less. What are you expecting from life that may not be contributing to your happiness? Is there anything you can do to change those expectations?

Tapping Into Your Inner Wisdom.

Do you ever feel a connection to something deeper, outside of yourself?

There are various names for this energy, i.e. God, Buddha, Allah, Infinite Intelligence, Chi, or Universe. Regardless of the name used, it all seems to fulfill some type of purpose or play a role in people’s lives.

People often describe this feeling or energy as a oneness or connection to some type of higher, infinite wisdom.

Many of us discover a sense of peace in nature and enjoy spending time in this energy by praying, meditating and listening.

It’s no coincidence that these things would ground us and bring us closer to who we are, our life purpose and what we came here to do.

Interestingly, when we go within through these practices we may discover wisdom, guidance and life truths. Personally, I have found myself receiving messages, glimpses of the future, or guidance while meditating.

We each have a different way of tapping into our inner wisdom. It may not be through prayer or meditation. It could be simply sitting outside on a summer night and enjoying the night sky.

Inner wisdom and connecting to a higher energy may come through in various ways, i.e. creativity, writing, music, dance, or meditation.

As Rumi says, there is an entire Universe inside of you. See what you can discover by simply tapping into it.

 

 

Stop Seeking Approval.

  “As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself can you truly own yourself.” – Neale Donald Walsch

Do you ever find yourself seeking the approval of others? Or worried about what someone else will think of you?

It’s hard to not be concerned about what others will think of us or if they approve of who we are especially when impressions are everything.

We constantly are weighed down by this effort to be approved by our peers, family, colleagues and even encounters with strangers. So when do ever draw the line? And just forget for once about being approved by someone else.

Let’s face it, not everyone will accept you for who you are or approve of you. There will always be at least one person that you just don’t vibe with.

It’s easier said than done. It’s a struggle to not truly care what anyone thinks of you or if they approve of you. Perhaps like an art that may require some effort on changing thought patterns or behaviors so that we may not feel the need to be approved by people.

Regardless of anyone else’s approval, you loving and approving of yourself is all that really matters and is the first step towards true freedom and happiness.

A Life of Happiness.

  Do you ever hear someone say, “When I do this then I will be happy”?

So often, we think of happiness as a place we arrive at, a destination. But what happens when you reach that goal or get to that place where you think you will be happy?

You keep going, that’s what happens. When we real that ultimate goal of supposed happiness we make a new one and think that will be the key to our happiness. Then we strive and push forward trying to manifest the next goal so we can then truly be happy.

Are you starting to see a pattern here? We are always going to think that there is something better for us and will always want more in life. However, happiness doesn’t come from having more or achieving more. Happiness comes in how we live our daily lives.

We can go about our daily routines and ignore the small things that make us happy like someone complimenting you, lunch with a close friend or simply having a home to go to at the end of the day.

We can easily take these small things for granted and often do. Happiness comes from taking notice of what you do have and are given each day rather than some obtained state or destination you have to reach before you can experience true happiness.

So the next time you catch yourself thinking you will be truly happy when…just remind yourself of what you can be happy about here, right now, in the present moment.

Love Someone for Who They Are.

“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”Thomas Merton: No Man is an Island

Ideally we would like to  think that the person we end up with will be someone who completely accepts, loves and understands us. However, It’s becoming quite difficult to love unconditionally in relationships these days.

Not only is it becoming more common for couples to break up because of their differences but also because they weren’t able to fully accept each other for who they were.

Sure there will be difficult times in any relationship but what is most important is remembering that you can’t change someone or their habits. Too often I see people get together and in the beginning of the relationship they ignore the warning signs.

Warning signs meaning things about the individual that maybe you are willing to compromise on or look past because you really like them. But what happens when you can no longer ignore these signs, habits or behaviors?

It’s okay to compromise in relationships and while I’m definitely no relationship expert I know that the relationships which last for 50 to 60 years usually have one major thing in common: compromise.

However when you find yourself constantly trying to change that person you love then perhaps it’s time to do some personal reflecting and reassessing.

Why is it that you are trying to change your significant other? What is stopping you from completely accepting them?

If you find yourself unable to really accept the person than maybe it’s time to let go of the relationship and allow both parties to find someone who will love you who for you are.

I’m not promoting breaking up with someone immediately because you can’t accept one thing about the person.

What I am saying though is to consider what is stopping you from accepting the person completely and why you may feel the need to change the person to fit a particular image.

Perhaps even remember what made you fall in love with the person in the first place and keep in mind what makes you both work rather than what doesn’t work.

We all want to be loved and unconditionally accepted by someone.

Allow yourself the opportunity to love someone who they are truly are.  It may be one of the biggest challenges of your life but perhaps one of the most life-changing and rewarding experience you will ever have.

 

Note: **Abusive or toxic relationships fall into a completely different category and definitely should not be tolerated under any circumstance.